Martin Luther King, Jr. Day Not Just for Black Folks!
Mood:
celebratory
Now Playing: The Wishing Chair: Singing With the Red Wolves
Topic: Politics
A guy we know from one of the more conservative areas of the SF Bay groused yesterday about everyone being given today off in his office.
"I'm not black, it's not my holiday, so why should I take the day off?"
He was upset about the office being closed and about not having the opportunity to work on a project.
When MLK, Jr. gave his famous I Have a Dream speech, the idea was for black, white, and indeed all races and creeds to come together. His message wasn't just about black pride and empowerment, though it certainly played a large part in his life for obvious reasons, but rather about all of us coming together to bring about a greater sense of peace (in other words, an absense of war) in the world.
From the I Have a Dream speech:
"The marvelous new militancy which has engulfed the Negro community must not lead us to a distrust of all white people. For many of our white brothers as evidenced by their presence here today have come to realize that their destiny is tied up with our destiny and they have come to realize that their freedom is inextricably bound to our freedom. We can not walk alone."
MLK, Jr. Day, as well as today's Day of Service, isn't just about black suffering and spiritual renewal; it should instead be considered as a day when everyone in this country comes together in the name of true, lasting equality.
As I've heard it said many times by people a lot wiser than myself, "The world is what we make of it." Sure, something unplanned and bad may happen from time to time, but if we allow a bad incident to spin our lives completely out of control, if we allow it to breed hate, distrust and divisiveness and nothing but, then we have solved nothing. We are merely the sum of our parts, the uncivilized "selfish gene" in action. We become our own mini version of the current financial crisis.
As a childhood abuse and also as a sexual assault survivor, I know this from the deepest part of my soul. I was angry and broken immediately afterwards, sure, but I also had a lot of friends of different races, and had a few good male friends at the time, and while my rape and subsequent recovery turned me into a louder, more confident and fit feminist (I'd been pro-equality ever since I was a young child), I decided I could not let the violence done against me push me into a realm of useless, permanent bitterness, which would only empower the rapist, not me.
I decided general, blinding hatred was counterproductive to my development. Instead, I allowed my anger and disappointment to become a healing force, to push me into action, into self-defense and weapons training, into higher education and into spiritual education for both myself and those around me. I decided to heal and become an activist, and because of this, men and women who were unsure of feminism or even one another heard my voice, and they, in turn, lead others, became brothers and sisters, and were able to turn the tides in their own lives.
Part of my response came from the fact that I was raised by and around people of all races, some who were abusive toward me, one another and/or toward women -- who were, in turn abusive (often out of frustration, but some were just plain ole nutso) to those weaker than themselves -- and I knew better than to let my anger against men consume me because of my past experiences growing up. In short, watching so much bad happen all around me caused me to seek out the good wherever I could, even if it was only in a song, a sunset, or in the laughter of a friend over a bad joke.
I won't lie and say I'm a completely open book; we all have to maintain our guard against those who seek to hurt us. We have to protect ourselves. However, the closed mindset, the lizard-brained part of humanity that seeks to separate, to divide, and to look the other way when someone suffers unjustly does nothing to serve humanity in the end, and pushes everone that much closer to the void instead. You can invite your demons over for tea or a beer every now and then -- in fact, it's good to check in every once in a while and see how things are progressing or regressing -- but I implore you to give them boundaries, to tell them when it's 2am and time to leave the bar. The power is in our hands to do such a thing, and if you're feeling overwhelmed, I highly suggest you volunteer somewhere that the people have it a lot worse than you. Your perspective should hopefully shift. Most of us here are pretty fucking lucky most of the time.
We make so much of our own luck, our own pain and suffering, and our own bitterness out of every little thing that comes our way. I'd like to say that from personal experience, it's up to each one of us to not only survive (that's only the first part), but instead to LIVE. It's okay to be pissed off from time to time, to say stupid shit or to even be counterproductive in the short term, but eventually these emotions should lead somewhere else in life.
With that in mind, I invite all of you to participate in a Day of Service, be it for a community event or something as simple as visiting an aging, lonely relative. Every little bit helps, especially when you ask the person you're helping to pay it forward instead of only expecting immediate reward or payment for yourself alone. Eventually, someone takes to heart your offer, and they ask someone else to do the same.
If we're able to put aside our differences and work on our universal natures, we're much more inclined to make lasting change. If all we can see is black-vs-white, man-vs-woman, us-vs-them, then we're doomed to be sacrificial pawns in a power game the majority of us are not equipped to play.